Welcome to Motivational Monday, where we are learning to Encourage and #LiftOthers together!
Here is a quick guide to the 5 Styles of Encouragement: you probably fall into one or two of these styles. You want to avoid attempts to mimic the style of others. This could end up discouraging instead of encouraging. Once you’ve identified your Encouragement Style, I’ll give you some best practices associated with each style.
Keep in mind you can have different styles in different areas of your life and with different groups of people. If you are a mom, you are likely one style with your kids and another with your colleagues. If you’re the VP, you likely encourage your peers with a different style than you do your own team. So be aware that you have a general style and then have to shift or adjust for each situation, (much like Situational Leadership).
5 Styles of Encouragement:
1. Inspiring Leader
You cast a strong vision others follow. Your words are often a source of encouragement for many.
Here are a few tips for the Inspiring Leader:
- Know that sometimes your actions speak louder than words
- Acknowledge people and give them your undivided attention
- Recognize others in front of not only their peers, but yours
- Hold focus groups where you gather ideas and share your refreshed vision
- Proactively mentor others
2. Respected Boss
What you say goes, but you don’t take that for granted. You can be tough at times, but also uplifting – your candid approach is appreciated.
Here are a few tips for the Respected Boss:
- Provide clear expectations, consequences, rewards and a straightforward path to success
- Be consistent and fair
- Give projects and ownership, manage deadlines and results
- Celebrate what people do right more than what they do wrong
- Consistent scheduled one on one time is a must
3. Accountability Partner
You help others by holding them accountable to their goals and aspirations. Together you go far (e.g., workout partner, writing partner, etc.)
Here are a few tips for the Accountability Partner:
- Set goals together
- Be a solid example of what good looks like
- Be positive, yet direct
- Send articles/posts of encouragement
- Be a role-model
- Meet up and perform the activity together
4. Best Friend
You are the trusted source of wisdom, advice and are there whenever needed to listen and share your honest opinion.
Here are a few tips for the Best Friend:
- Be genuine
- Actively listen
- Ask questions
- Share stories
- Give advice
- Answer when called
- Don’t judge
5. Puppy Dog
Your unconditional love, support, positivity is needed. You are always there with a friendly encouraging word, giving them full attention to show them they are the most important person in the world.
Here are a few tips for the Puppy Dog:
- Be genuine
- Hold back judgements and love fully
- Follow it up with concrete examples to help provide guidance in addition to your support
- Don’t give the same encouragement to everyone – mix it up to show how genuine you are
These 5 Styles will give you a framework to encourage others more effectively. Try them out this week and let me know how it goes.
Engage in the conversation: which style are you overall and give one example where you have used your style to encourage or lift someone special in your life.
Looking forward to hearing from you!
Remember: Be an Encourager. The world has plenty of critics already.