For so long many of us have put up “parameters of capability.” This is what I can do, and this is what I can’t do. Anything outside of that becomes off limits. Over time we start tightening those parameters and close ourselves in. “I’m not really a social person, so I can’t go hang out after work.” “I could never get that promotion, so I’ll just stay in this position and get comfortable, it’s not that bad.” As we tell ourselves what’s possible we start to slouch inside and ask ourselves, “am I even capable of this?” So most of us are living in a box. “I’ve built it and I’m comfortable living within its boundaries.” This is now our “comfort zone.”
For generations, we stayed in our positions for 15, 20, 30 or 40 years because it was comfortable. We thought, “there’s nothing else out there for me. And if I did pursue something more, what if I risk what I have now thinking – I deserve a better position or I need more responsibility or I could write a book or…– what if I risked it all? I could lose what I cherish in my comfort zone!” So, we tighten it up and live in that small box.
Maybe, for example, we don’t think we could ever be social, but we choose to go to lunch with someone we know this week and realize, it’s not that scary. Maybe when we knock down that wall it becomes a bridge to a new life with new possibilities. Maybe the next week, we go to lunch with a group of people we already know and feel comfortable with and realize “this isn’t as bad as I thought, maybe there’s a chance I could be more social than I thought.” As we do this more and more, we begin to redefine what’s possible in our lives!
Maybe the fear, doubt and uncertainty we’ve lived with for so long as ok…is not ok. Maybe it’s time to redefine what’s possible and break out of the box to find even MORE happiness, even MORE opportunity, even MORE love and joy and success!!
Maybe, just maybe it’s your time!
So push the boundaries and expand your parameters of capability to become who you are meant to be!
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